5. Ex-partners or Estranged Friends (Case-by-case)

If their presence would cause discomfort or pain to the immediate family (especially spouses, children, or parents), it’s okay to kindly ask them not to attend — or to come to a separate memorial.

Example: An ex-spouse showing up uninvited when their presence would upset the widow/widower.

6. Anyone Under the Influence

People who are known to show up intoxicated or behave erratically under alcohol or drugs can ruin a sacred event.

If someone has a history of this behavior, it’s reasonable to proactively ask them not to come.

7. Attention-Seekers

Some people use funerals to draw attention to themselves — with dramatic displays of grief, stories that shift focus, or inappropriate comments.

If you know someone like this, it’s okay to protect the event from disruption.